__ 7)
Describe...
-
at least 15 of the ~25 normal
developmental needs of typical
minor children, and...
-
the
eight
stages of normal human development proposed by Dr. Erik Erickson.
__ 8) Describe
six
essential traits of effective parents.
__ 9)
Define at least two criteria for judging the
potential effectiveness of any parent.
__ 10)
Name at least
10 traits
of an ineffectively-parented teen or adult (a "Grown
Wounded Child" GWC). Grown Nurtured
Children (GNCs) have the opposite traits
__ 11)
Name
that
effective parents usually rank higher than the welfare of their dependent kids
except in emergencies.
__ 12)
Explain the purpose of family
roles
and rules,
__ 13)
Describe the several
purposes
of child discipline.
__ 14) Summarize...
_
the two
for effective (vs. "open and honest") interpersonal
communication;
_
seven essential
required for effective communication,
_
ten or more common
and...
_
the best way to teach kids to use these skills
__
15) Describe at least seven
guidelines for effective child discipline.
__ 16)
Name at least ten
differences between communicating with adults vs. with typical kids and
teens.
__ 17) Explain
_ how and _ when to teach a child how to balance work, play, and
rest
__ 18)
Describe......
_ when and
_ how to explain a personal "life mission"
and
to a child, and explain...
_
how to
respectfully encourage a child to discover and pursue their
life purpose.
__ 19)
Describe why, how, and when to teach a child to be
aware of...
_
_
and
_ their environment.
__
20)
Describe
how, why, and when to teach a child about...
_ normal
and...
_
their
and
and
_
when
someone's true Self is in charge;
and...
_ how to best
use
this knowledge;
__ 21)
Describe why, how, and when to teach a child how to...
_ recognize and
_ settle
and
how to
_
his or her
of
personality subselves.
__ 22)
Describe why, when, and how to teach a child to...
_ understand,
_ accept, and
_ assert their
personal human rights effectively, with
minimal guilt or anxiety.
__ 23)
Describe...
_
the requisites
for a mutually-satisfying relationship;
_ at least six of the key
differences
between a nurturing relationship and a toxic
relationship; and...
_
the best way to help a child understand and use these
differences;
__ 24)
Explain...
_ an interpersonal (or
internal)
_ why triangles can be significantly
stressful; and...
_ what adults can do to
avoid and
permanently dissolve significant triangles and...
_ how and when to
teach this to a minor child.
__
25) Explain...
_ when to
start teaching a child
self
respect ("high
self
esteem") and...
_
non-egotistical
and...
_ how
to recognize and minimize
shame and embarrassment; and explain...
_ how
to teach each of these effectively to a child, over time.
__ 26)
Describe how to teach a child to...
_ value and invite
among
different people, and to
_ appreciate and enjoy (vs. judge or fear) the
differences between people.
__ 27)
Describe how and when to
teach a child to
_ understand and
_ appreciate common
gender-based (male /
female)
and...
_ healthy
sexual attitudes and practices.
__
28) Explain how to teach a child how to make healthy choices about
_ whom to
_ with what,
_ what
intimacy
is; and...
_ how to
relate effectively
to
people they don't trust
__ 29)
Explain how and when to teach a child how to develop, understand, and use
empathy
with other living things - including how to
to others empathically.
__
30)
Describe when and how
to teach a child...
_ how to differentiate
and submission;
and...
_ how to react appropriately to each of these.
__ 31)
Describe how and when to teach a child how to...
_
analyze and
_
resolve significant
relationship "problems" (unmet needs).
__ 32)
Explain...
_ why typical kids (and adults) may lie or
withhold their truth, and...
_ how to
react when they do.
__ 33)
Describe...
_
what causes anger and
frustration;
_ a
healthy family
and...
_ how and
_ when to teach a child to understand and use
and
constructively.
__ 34)
Describe
how and when to
teach a
child about...
_
_
(broken bonds);
_ healthy
_ how
grieving and depression
are related;
and about...
_ personal and
family
grieving
policies.
__ 35)
Describe how and when to teach a child to manage
worries and fears
__
36) Describe how
to teach a child to
_
understand
guilt,
_ how to
reduce
excessive guilt to normal,
_
how
to avoid
unmerited guilt, and
_ how to
react to guilt-based
people.
__ 37)
Explain _ when and _ how
to teach a child to...
_ take responsibility for their decisions and actions,
and to
_ give others
responsibility for theirs, without excessive guilt, shame, or anxiety.
__
38) Describe _ how and _ when to teach a minor child...
_ the difference between
religion;
_
the difference between
toxic vs. healthy
religion.;
_
how and _ from whom to seek spiritual awareness, wisdom, and
support; and...
_
how to respond to prejudice and
intolerance
__
39) Explain _ when and _ how
to teach a child to
_ develop and _ live by their own healthy sense of right and wrong,
_
how to be honest about mistakes, and...
_ how to learn from
them.
__
40)
Describe how and why to teach a child
_ how their body works,
_
how to care for their body and
and...
_ how to manage and enjoy their sensuality and
sexuality well,
__ 41)
Describe how and when to teach a child...
_ what an
is,
_
why people
become addicted, and
_ how and why to avoid
or scorning addicted people.
__ 42)
Explain how and
when to teach a child to want to balance
immediate and long-tem gratification.
__ 43)
Describe...
_ the main
social skills
a child needs to
learn in order to be a self-sufficient young adult,
and
_ how and when to teach them these skills.
__
44)
Describe how and when to fill any of these normal
child-development needs not
covered above.
__
45) Name at least 15 of the ~30
special adjustment needs
typical kids of parental separation, death, divorce, and
remarriage need adult help to fill.
Can you think of other questions about effective parenting that
should be included here? This is not a
complete exam!
__ 45) In
your opinion, which of the topics above could parents omit
and still be judged effective long term? Explain your
answer.