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This article is one of a series on
professional counseling, coaching, and therapy with (a) low-nurturance
(dysfunctional) families and with (b) typical
of childhood
and trauma. These articles for
professionals are under construction.
This series assumes you're familiar with:
Before continuing, pause and reflect - why are you reading this article?
What do you
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Many
factors shape the nurturance level (functionality) of typical divorcing families
and stepfamilies. This sample stepfamily-assessment profile allows clinicians to
summarize key factors to help form intervention goals, strategies, and
priorities. It can also guide co-parents in managing their merger and
team-building goals along the way.
See the related clinical-assessment
overview and stressor summary
for background and perspec-tive. A
basic premise underlying this profile is that typical client
presenting problems are symptoms of the
primary problems shown here. Another premise is that the primary client
is the multi-home
- i.e. all adults and kids who call each minor child's one or two
dwellings "home."
Directions: write
a first name or initials above the columns to the right to denote a client adult
or child. Then check or "x" the column if s/he seems to have or be affected by
the stressor on the left. If you're not sure, use "?" or an asterisk and
separate note. If a stressor involves two or more people check each one. Options
for using this profile are at the end.
SAMPLE CLIENT
ASSESSMENT PROFILE
Client name:
___________________________ Primary therapist: ___________________________
Case # ________________
Initial contact date: ______________
Other:
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Nuclear-family members
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2) Significant false-self
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6) Discounts stepfamily
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7) Unclear on stepfamily
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Unaware of healthy
grieving basics |
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12) Probable
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14) Doesn't know/assert
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15) Ineffective at
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Unclear on
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role conflicts or overload
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Ineffective/inappropriate
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resolve
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resolve
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resolve
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major
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Unresolved
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little stable
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sexual behavior |
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including sugar, fat, and
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29) Lacks
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30) Unaware of step/child
develop- mental and/or
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Unable to fill
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Most
of these common stepfamily stressors have several underlying primary
problems that need additional assessment and strategic interventions. Generally,
reducing or eliminating a major stressor requires identifying and reducing or
eliminating each secondary stressor.
For example, "Ineffective at problem
solving" usually results from false-self
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of communication
basics,
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and blocks.
Each of these can be improved
with patient teamwork and informed education and support. The first step is for
relevant co-parents to become aware of (a) each stressor and (b) its
impacts
without blame or guilt.
Options
Edit this profile to better fit your
paradigm, personality, style, and work situation.
Consider adapting a profile like this to help
prevent divorced-family and
stepfamily stress from these
Use
additional pages for notes about selected and combined stressors - e.g.
underlying problems (unmet
and who's responsible for resolving each of them.
Work
backwards: rank the stressors
according to their impact on the client family's nurturance level (most >
least). Then develop and implement intervention strategies in that
order. This must be organic vs. linear, because most stressors affect each
other and the family system's functioning as a whole. Nonetheless, a
structured intervention plan is more likely to yield satisfactions than random
interventions.
Periodically review and update each client's profile with any assessment
changes, and note systemic improvements (or lack of them). Option: relative to
the prior version of the profile, add a "+" (less family stress) or " - "
(more stress) to show significant systemic changes. Discuss this with the
client.
Use
a profile like this to help (a) assess and (b) teach client co-parents. Option:
ask them to discuss a copy of this with family members who aren't
participating in the clinical process.
Use
copies of a profile like this to enhance supervision and/or consultation
dialogs.
Use
a profile like this to remind yourself of the range and complexity of common
stressors typical divorced-family and stepfamily members frequently encounter.
Show
this profile to other professionals who work with
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and alert them to this non-profit website (sfhelp.org), the five-part
,
and the related guidebooks.
Awarenesses...