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        Premise - awareness of relation ship skills and dynamics will significantly improve your daily life. Most people are only vaguely aware of these, and endure significant relationship confusion and stress without knowing how to improve that. Lessons 1-4 in this online course show you how to do that.

        Take this quiz a you start Lesson 4, when you finish it, and randomly after that. Choose an undis-tracted place, and allow at least 45" to answer these items. If you can, decide whether your true Self is taking this quiz, or some other subselves (Lesson 1). If the latter, expect skewed results.

        Take your time here - answering superficially defeats the value of this quiz. Check an item as "true" only if you can confidently check all sub-items. If you're unsure, use "?" Options - answer these ques-tions out loud, and follow the links to check your answers.

What I Know About Human Relationships

__ 1)  Explain the difference between surface needs and primary needs.

__ 2)  Explain _ what a relationship is, and _ why they occur in all human (and animal) societies.

__ 3)  Name _ the four groups of factors needed for a healthy (high nurturance) relationship          between any two people, and _ at least five key ingredients in each group.

__ 4)  Describe at least six of the key differences between a nurturing relationship and a toxic relation-          ship.  

__ 5)  Describe what's needed to have a healthy relationship with your Self.

__ 6)  Explain the difference between a nurturing and toxic relationship with a Higher Power

__ 7)  Describe _ how the personalities of two people in a relationship interact, and _ how to talk about           that interaction effectively with relationship partners.

__ 8)  Describe each of these relationship terms out loud.

__ 9) Name at least seven of the common symptoms of codependence (relationship addiction).

__ 10)  Explain how social roles and rules affect the quality of typical relationships.

__ 11)  Explain _ what an interpersonal boundary is, and _ how to manage typical boundary violations.    

__ 12)  Explain...

_  what an interpersonal (or innerpersonal) relationship triangle is,

_  why triangles can be significantly stressful - specially if minor kids are involved; and...

_  what responsible adults can do to _ avoid and _ permanently dissolve significant triang-    les.

__ 13)  Describe the key _ traits of, and _ differences between, codependent, interdependent, and inde-           pendent relationships.

__ 14)  Describe at least eight differences between typical "male brains" and "female brains."

__ 15)  Explain _ the difference between anger and frustration, and _ what an anger policy is.

__ 16)  Name at least five traits that courting adults should be aware of in choosing the right partner, five            right-reasons to commit, and five signs it's the right time to commit.

__ 17)  Name at least eight courtship danger signs.

__ 18)  Describe...

_  five related reasons for the U.S. divorce epidemic

_  the three phases of a divorce,

_  at least 10 typical divorce-adjustment tasks kids and adults face, and...

_  how to judge when a divorce is finished.

__ 19)  Name and describe the seven communication skills people need to know to manage their rela-             tionships effectively. (Lesson 2)

__ 20}  Explain what an R-message is, and how it affects relationships.

__ 21)  Explain what a relationship problem is, and three things that causes them.

__ 22)  Describe _ how to recognize a significantly wounded person, and _ at least four keys to relating            well with wounded adults and kids.

__ 23)  Describe how to _ analyze and _ resolve most significant relationship problems.

        How do you feel about your basic knowledge of relationships? Do most of your family adults know these fundamentals? Do you think average adults could "pass" this quiz? Where do you think minor kids should learn these fundamentals? How do you feel about the premise that average adults don't know what they need to know?

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        Pause, breathe, and reflect - why did you read this quiz? Did you get what you needed? If not - what do you need? Who's answering these questions - your wise true Self or someone else?

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