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May 22, 2013
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This is one of a series of articles in
- learn what typical kids need as they grow, and how to fill their needs
effectively over two decades without neglecting yourself.
The range and
scope of major
social problems suggests that U.S. parents are failing at
implementing the concepts in this Lesson depend on your integrating and practicing the ideas
Lessons 1 thru 5
Premises - many adults suffered from inadequate parenting when they were
young - as did their ancestors. These kids learned to adapt
to the resulting psychological wounds and became adults without knowing their
wounds or what they caused.
Until they break their denial and reduce their inherited wounds and unawareness,
they're at high risk of
passing these on to their kids as their
See how these ideas compare to yours:
"Parenting" means "identifying a minor child's
daily and developmental (long-term) needs and consistently filling
them (nurturing) in a mutually-healthy way."
A "parent" is someone who contributes genes to a
child's conception, or a non-genetically-related person who has major effect
on a child's growth and welfare in someone's opinion.
Parental effectiveness is indicated by
(a) how well a young adult is able to live independently, and (b) form a
high-nurturance family of her/his own.
Lesson-6 resource-links are for (a) cohabiting parents and (b) adults
in separated and divorcing
families and their supporters. Additional co-parenting resources for
are in Lesson 7.
provides links to a collection of Web articles and resources to assist
you in mastering Lesson 6 in this non-profit Web site -
learn to practice effective
(high nurturance) parenting. This is the crux of breaking the
pervasive lethal [wounds + unawareness] cycle. To use these resources
effectively, (a) finish Lessons 1-5.
If you're in a stepfamily (or will be), these resources will give you a
foundation for mastering some special co-parenting challenges. Doing so
is part of Lesson 7.