__ 8) Describe
essential traits of effective parents.
Define at least two criteria for judging the
effectiveness of any parent.
Name at least
of an effectively-parented adult child (a "Grown
effective parents usually rank higher than the welfare of their dependent
except in emergencies.
Explain the purpose of family
Describe the several purposes
of child discipline.
__ 14) Describe
at least seven
guidelines for effective child discipline.
Name at least ten
differences between communicating to adults and to typical kids and
__ 16) I know how
and why to monitor and regulate a child's use of TV, the
Internet, texting, and video games.
(True / False / I'm not sure)
I know when and how to _ explain a personal "life mission"
to a child, and how to _
respectfully encourage the child to discover and cultivate their
Describe why, how, and when to teach a child to be
aware of _
_ their environment.
how, why, and when to teach a child about _ normal
and _ how to best
Describe why, how, and when to teach a child how to _ recognize and
how to _
his or her
Describe why, when, and how to teach a child to _ understand, _ accept, and _ assert their
personal human rights effectively, with
minimal guilt or anxiety.
Describe at least six of the key
between a nurturing relationship and a toxic
_ an interpersonal (or
_ why triangles can be significantly
specially if minor kids are involved; and...
_ what responsible
adults can do to
avoid and permanently dissolve significant triangles.
_ when to
start teaching a child
respect ("high self
to recognize and minimize
shame and embarrassment; and explain...
to teach each of these effectively to a child, over time.
I know how to teach a child to _ value and invite
different people, and to
_ appreciate and enjoy (vs. judge or fear) the
differences between people.
(True / False / ? )
Describe how and when to
teach a child to _ understand and _ appreciate common
gender- based (male /
and _ healthy sexual attitudes and practices.
Describe how to teach a child how to make healthy choices about _ whom to
_ with what, and _ how to
relate effectively to
people they don't trust
Describe how and when to teach a child how to develop, understand, and use
with other living things - including how to
to others empathically.
__ 29) I know how
to _ teach a child how to differentiate
assertion, and submis- sion;
and _ how to react appropriately to each of these.
I know how and when to teach a child how to _
analyze and _
relationship "problems" (unmet needs).
__ 31) I know
_ why typical kids (and adults) may lie or
withhold their truth, and _ how to react when they do.
Describe what causes
_ how and when to teach a child to understand and
use anger and frustration constructively.
how and when to
child about _
and _ healthy
Describe how to teach a child how to _ regulate and _ use
worries and fears constructively
to teach a child to _ understand
guilt, _ how to
excessive guilt to normal, _ how
unmerited guilt, and _ how to
react to guilt-based
to teach a child to _ take responsibility for their decisions and actions,
and to _ give others
responsibility for theirs, without excessive guilt, shame, or anxiety.
_ how and _ when to teach a child the difference between
and _ how and _ from whom to seek spiritual
wisdom, and support.
__ 38) I know how
to _ teach a child to _ develop and _ live by their own healthy sense of right and
how to be honest about mistakes, and _ how to learn from
Describe how and why to teach a child _ how their body works,
_ how to choose a healthy diet,
_ how to manage and enjoy their sensuality and
sexuality well, and _ how to balance work, play, and
Describe how and when to teach a child _ what an
why people become
ad- dicts, and _ how and why to avoid
or scorning addicted people.
Explain how to teach a child to want to balance
immediate and long-tem gratification.
Name _ the main social skills a child needs to
learn in order to be a self-sufficient young adult,
and _ decide if you know how and when to teach them these skills.
(Yes / No / ?)
Can you think of other questions about effective parenting that
should be included here?
and reflect - what are you thinking and feeling now? On a scale of
ignorant) to ten (extremely knowledgeable),
how would you rate your
knowledge of effective-parenting basics now? ___ Would others who know you
On the same 1-10 scale, rate the parenting knowledge
of your mate ___, your mother ___, your father ___ and your grandparents ___.
Did your ratings change from the first time you did this?
If you found all these items
overwhelming, easy does it.
I've found very few experienced family adults who could
answer more than a third of these parenting
questions. Most of our
parents and grandparents didn't know many of these things when they were raising us,
and many human-service pro-fessionals were never taught them all (!)
I hope this quiz motivates you to learn more about the vital art
and skill of effective parenting. Is there anyone you want to give a copy of
this quiz to or refer them to this Web article?
Option: re-read this quiz, identify the links that intrigue you, and follow each of them over some days or weeks to
learn what's there. Another option is to
find a motivated partner to
study, discuss, and mull as you go. Review these
suggestions about how to best use this site.
Continue studying Lesson 6.
If you're in a stepfamily (or may be), there's more on effective
Pause, breathe, and reflect - why did you read this article? Did
you get what you needed? If not, what
you need? Who's
these questions - your
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