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base address:
http://sfhelp.org/ |
Worksheet /
Checklist Title |
PROJECT 1 - Assess and Reduce
False-self Wounds |
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basics/health.htm
(2 pages) |
30 traits of a high-nurturance
family |
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01/co-dep.htm (2 pages) |
Checklist: Am I or my partner a
"co-dependent" (relationship addict)? |
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01/hi-n-org.htm |
Premises about, and 30 traits of,
high-nurturance organizations. |
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01/w1-gwctraits.htm (2 pages) |
1) Behavioral traits of
false-self wounds |
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01/w2-f-traits.htm (2 pages) |
2) 29 Traits of High-nurturance
families |
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01/w3-f-tree.htm
(2 pages) |
3): Assess your family
tree for wounded ancestors |
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01/w4-grouptraits.htm |
4) Typical traits of
high and low-nurturance group members. |
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01/hi-n-org.htm |
5) 30 traits of typical high-nurturance
organizations |
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01/false-self.htm |
6) Behavioral traits of living under
the control of a "false self" |
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01/shame.htm
(2 pages) |
7) Behavioral symptoms of excessive
shame |
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basics/fears.htm
(2 pages) |
8) Behavioral symptoms of excessive
fears (anxieties) |
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01/distortions.htm |
9) Behavioral symptoms of excessive
reality distortions |
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01/dis_trust.htm |
10) Behavioral symptoms of excessive
trust and distrust |
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01/bonding.htm
(2 pages) |
11) Behavioral traits of being unable to
bond and exchange love |
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01/co-dep.htm
(2 pages) |
12) Behavioral traits of co-dependence
(relationship addiction) |
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01/dx-results.htm |
Understanding your results from
assessing for false-self wounds |
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PROJECT 2 -
Effective Communication Basics and Skills |
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02/evc-quiz.htm |
A
quiz on
effective-communication basics |
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02/assert-profile.htm |
A profile of your personal assertion
style |
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02/evc-blox.htm (2 pages) |
30 communication blocks, and options
for resolving them |
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02/evc-checklist.htm |
41 factors for improving family
problem-solving. |
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02/evc-phrases.htm |
Sample questions and phrases that
promote effective communications. |
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02/evc-strengths.htm |
A personal communication-strengths
inventory |
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02/evc-tips.htm |
22 tips for *effective* inner and
social communication. |
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02/fuzzy1-wks.htm
(2 pages) |
Worksheet and article: are you a "fuzzy thinker"? |
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02/I-msg-wks.htm |
A worksheet for devising effective "I"-message
assertions |
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02/listen-inventory.htm |
Evaluate how effective a listener
you are (or someone else is) |
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02/meta-wks.htm |
"Metatalk" communication-skill
guidelines and examples |
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02/ps-inventory.htm |
Worksheet - constructive and
destructive problem-solving traits |
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PROJECT 3 - Accept
Your Stepfamily Identity and What it Means |
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03/identity-wks.htm |
Discover who accepts your identity as a
stepfamily. |
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PROJECT 4 - Agree
on Who Belongs to Your Stepfamily, and Form Realistic
Expectations |
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04/myths.htm |
60 common stepfamily myths and
realities |
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04/60-expect1.htm (2 pages)
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60 common stepfamily expectations |
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PROJECT 5 - Evolve
a Healthy Family Grieving Policy, and Free any Blocked Grief |
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basics/quiz_grief.htm |
A
quiz on
"good-grief" basics |
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05/abstract-loss-wks |
Intangible losses from divorce,
remarriage, and/or cohabiting. |
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05/physical-loss-wks.htm |
tangible losses from divorce,
remarriage, and/or cohabiting |
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05/griefval.htm |
A grief values-clarification
worksheet. |
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PROJECT 7 - Make
Three Wise Courtship Decisions |
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07/quiz.htm |
How much do you know about
personalities and relationships? |
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07/courtship-qs.htm |
A courtship (pre-remarriage)
questionnaire |
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07/danger1.htm (2 pages) |
16 common pre-re/marriage danger
signs |
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07/divorce_rcvry_wks.htm |
Checklist: symptoms of an
"unfinished" divorce |
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07/rt-co-p.htm |
Am I committing to the right
co-parents? |
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07/rt-partner.htm |
Am I re/marrying the right partner? |
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07/rt-reasons.htm
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Are we re/marrying for the right
reasons? |
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07/rt-stepkid.htm (2 pages) |
Am I committing to the right
stepkids? |
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07/rt-time.htm (p.
1 of 4) |
Is it the right time to remarry?
Individual co-parent factors. |
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07/rt-time2.htm (p. 2 of 4) |
Are all our stepfamily co-parents ready
for a re/marriage? |
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07/rt-time3.htm (p. 3 of 4) |
Courting-couple factors, and all
co-parents together. |
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07/rt-time4.htm (p. 4 of 4) |
Is each stepchild ready for parental
re/marriage? |
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07/strnx1-individual.htm (p. 2 of
11) |
Inventory: our stepfamily
co-parents' strengths as persons. |
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07/strnx2-cpls.htm (p. 3 of
11) |
Inventory: our co-parents' strengths
as couples |
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07/strnx3-co-p.htm (pp. 4-5 of
11) |
Inventory: our co-parents' general
strengths as nurturers |
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07/strnx5-sf-co-p.htm (pp. 6-7 of
11) |
Inventory: our co-parents' strengths
as stepchild nurturers |
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07/strnx7-fam.htm (p. 8 of 11) |
Inventory: the strengths in and
between our co-parenting homes |
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07/strnx8-all.htm (pages 9-10 of 11) |
Inventory: our extended-stepfamily's
general human strengths. |
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07/strnx9-all+score.htm
(p. 11 of 11) |
Inventory: our extended-stepfamily
strengths (concluded); and
"scoring" this 11-page
strengths inventory. |
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PROJECT 8 - Co-create a
High-nurturance (Re)Marriage, and Keep it Second |
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08/mrrg-values-wks.htm |
Worksheet - special-relationship
traits. |
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08/priority.htm |
Worksheet - identify someone's
recent life priorities. |
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08/strnx-strssrs.htm (2 pages) |
Inventory - our relationship's
strengths and stressors |
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08/redivorce1.htm (4 pages) |
29 alternatives to re/divorce |
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PROJECT 9 - Merge and Stabilize
Your Biofamilies, and Solve Many Conflicts |
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09/change.htm |
Manage the pace of changes as you
merge your families |
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09/lc-wksht.htm |
A family loyalty-conflict assessment
worksheet. |
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09/merge.htm |
16 "things" typical new steppeople
must combine and stabilize. |
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PROJECT 10 - Evolve a
High-nurturance Co-parenting Team Together |
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basics/attitudes.htm |
An "attitude inventory" for
co-parents. |
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10/conception.htm |
A worksheet to help make
wise conception or adoption decisions |
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10/co-p-affirmations.htm |
Examples of believable
self-affirmations for co-parents |
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10/co-p-goals.htm |
A checklist of basic parenting
goals, and a definition of "effective" stepfamily co-parent. |
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10/co-pinv1.htm (4 pages) |
Worksheet for clarifying stepfamily
co-parents' responsibilities |
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10/co-p-traits.htm |
Personality traits of effective
parents - do they describe you ? |
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10/co-p-val.htm |
Worksheet: our current co-parenting
values. |
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10/discipline-values.htm |
Worksheet: Discover your co-parents'
child-discipline values |
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10/kid-needs.htm (2 pages) |
Typical stepkids' 60 concurrent
developmental, healing, and adjustment needs |
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PROJECT 11 - Evolve an Effective
Support Network - and Use It! |
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11/sg-plan1.htm |
Co-parent support-group
goal-setting, guidelines, and topics |
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11/support-wks1.htm (2 pages) |
Worksheet: Where I stand with 59
inner-personal supports. |
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PROJECT 12 - Pace Yourselves,
stay Balanced, and Enjoy Nurturing Your Family! |
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12/blnc1-me-you.htm |
A personal-balance checklist
for committed partners |
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12/blnc3-home.htm |
Checklist: How well-balanced is our
home (nuclear family)? |
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12/blnc4-sf.htm |
Checklist: How well-balanced is our
multi-home nuclear stepfamily? |
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