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base address:
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Worksheet /
Checklist Title |
LESSON 1 - Assess and Reduce
False-self Wounds |
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gwc/1_gwctraits.htm (2 pages) |
Behavioral traits of
false-self wounds |
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gwc/2_famtraits.htm (2 pages) |
29 Traits of High-nurturance
families |
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gwc/3_tree.htm
(2 pages) |
Assess your family
tree for wounded ancestors |
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gwc/4_grouptraits.htm |
Typical traits of
high and low-nurturance group members. |
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gwc/hi_n_org.htm |
30 traits of typical high-nurturance
organizations |
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gwc/false_self.htm |
Behavioral traits of living under
the control of a "false self" |
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gwc/wounds/shame.htm
(2 pages) |
Behavioral symptoms of excessive
shame |
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gwc/wounds/fears.htm
(2 pages) |
Behavioral symptoms of excessive
fears (anxieties) |
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gwc/wounds/distort.htm |
Behavioral symptoms of excessive
reality distortions |
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gwc/wounds/distrust.htm |
Behavioral symptoms of excessive
trust and distrust |
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gwc/wounds/bonding.htm
(2 pages) |
Behavioral traits of being unable to
bond and exchange love |
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gwc/codep.htm
(2 pages) |
Behavioral traits of codependence
(relationship addiction) |
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gwc/results.htm |
Understanding your results from
assessing for false-self wounds |
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LESSON 2 -
Learn Effective-communication Basics and Skills |
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cx/quiz2.htm |
A
quiz on
effective-communication basics |
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cx/skills/assert_profile.htm |
A profile of your personal assertion
style |
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cx/blocks.htm (2 pages) |
30 communication blocks, and options
for resolving them |
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cx/tools/phrases.htm |
Sample questions and phrases that
promote effective communications. |
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cx/tools/strengths.htm |
A personal communication-strengths
inventory |
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cx/skills/think.htm
(3 pages) |
Worksheet and article: are you a "fuzzy thinker"? |
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cx/tools/I-msg.htm |
A worksheet for devising effective "I"-message
assertions |
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cx/skills/listen-inventory.htm |
Evaluate how effective a listener
you are (or someone else is) |
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cx/skills/meta_wks.htm |
"Metatalk" communication-skill
guidelines and examples |
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cx/skills/ps_inventory.htm |
Worksheet - constructive and
destructive problem-solving traits
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LESSON 3 - Evolve
a healthy family-grieving policy, and free any blocked grief |
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grief/quiz3.htm |
A
quiz on
"good-grief" basics |
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grief/abstract.htm |
Intangible losses from divorce,
(re)marriage, and/or cohabiting. |
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grief/physical.htm |
tangible losses from divorce,
(re)marriage, and/or cohabiting |
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grief/values.htm |
A grief values-clarification
worksheet.
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LESSON 4 - Choose and evolve
high-nurturance relationships |
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Basics |
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relate/quiz4.htm |
How much do you know about
relationships? |
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relate/mates/course.htm |
A self-study courtship course for
childless couples |
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relate/mates/danger.htm (2 pages) |
13 common pre-marriage danger
signs |
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relate/strnx9_all+score.htm
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Inventory: our extended-stepfamily
strengths (concluded); and
"scoring" this 11-page
strengths inventory. |
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relate/mates/people.htm |
Am I marrying the right partner? |
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relate/mates/reasons.htm
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Are we re/marrying for the right
reasons? |
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relate/mates/time.htm |
Is it the right time to marry?
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relate/mates/profile.htm
(2-pages) |
Inventory: our relationship's
strengths and stressors
- p. 1 of 2 |
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relate/mates/balance.htm |
A personal-balance checklist
for committed partners |
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relaate/mates/priority.htm |
Worksheet - identify someone's
recent life priorities. |
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relate/mates/divorce.htm (4 pages) |
29 alternatives to re/divorce |
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LESSON 5 - Evolve a
High-nurturance Family |
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fam/health.htm
(2 pages) |
30 traits of a high-nurturance
family |
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relate/keys/attitudes.htm |
An "attitude inventory" for
family adults |
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fam/lc.htm |
A family loyalty-conflict assessment
worksheet. |
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LESSON 6 - Learn to Parent
(Nurture) Effectively |
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parent/conception.htm |
A worksheet to help make
wise conception or adoption decisions |
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parent/goals.htm |
A checklist of basic parenting
goals, and a definition of "effective" stepfamily co-parent. |
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parent/traits.htm |
Personality traits of effective
parents - do they describe you ? |
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parent/values.htm |
Worksheet: our current co-parenting
values. |
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help/sg/plan1.htm |
Co-parent support-group
goal-setting, guidelines, and topics |
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help/worksheet.htm (2 pages) |
Worksheet: Where I stand with 59
inner-personal supports. |
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LESSON 7 - Evolve and enjoy a
high-nurturance stepfamily |
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sf/date/divorce_rcvry_wks.htm |
Checklist: symptoms of an
"unfinished" divorce |
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sf/date/co_p.htm |
Am I committing to the right
co-parents? |
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sf/date/partner.htm |
Am I committing to the right partner? |
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sf/date/reasons.htm
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Are we committing for the right reasons? |
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sf/date/time.htm (p.
1 of 4) |
Is it the right time to remarry?
Individual co-parent factors. |
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sf/date/stepkid.htm (2 pages) |
Am I committing to the right
stepkids? |
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sf/basics/myths.htm |
60 common stepfamily myths and
realities |
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sf/basics/expect.htm (2 pages)
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60 common stepfamily expectations |
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sf/change.htm |
Manage the pace of
merging your biofamilies |
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sf/merge.htm |
16 "things" typical new steppeople
must combine and stabilize. |
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sf/date/strnx_individual.htm |
Inventory: our stepfamily
co-parents' strengths as persons. |
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sf/date/strnx_cpls.htm |
Inventory: our co-parents' strengths
as couples |
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sf/date/strnx3_par.htm |
Inventory: our co-parents' general
strengths as nurturers |
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relate/strnx5_co-p.htm |
Inventory: our co-parents' strengths
as stepchild nurturers |
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relate/strnx7-fam.htm |
Inventory: the strengths in and
between our co-parenting homes |
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relate/strnx8_all.htm |
Inventory: our extended-stepfamily's
general human strengths. |
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parent/kid_needs.htm (2 pages) |
Typical stepkids' 60 developmental, healing, and adjustment needs |
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sf/co/affirm.htm |
Examples of believable
self-affirmations for co-parents |
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sf/co/wks.htm (4 pages) |
Worksheet for clarifying stepfamily
co-parents' responsibilities |
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